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An Offer you Can’t Refuse: Writing Your Own Letter of Recommendation

In the last few weeks, several medical school applicants have contacted me saying that potential letter of recommendation writers are asking the candidates to write their own letters.

If you have this opportunity for medical school, dental school, residency, or fellowship, first, realize that it is not unethical to write your own letter if you’re asked to do so. If you’d like to explore the scruples of this issue, take a look at this New York Times Ethicist column about the topic.

The mistake I see candidates make in this situation is that applicants don’t write strong enough letters for themselves because they feel awkward about showcasing their accomplishments fully. If you have the opportunity to write your own letter, craft a glowing one. Be effusive and full-throated in your remarks about yourself! Remember that the letter-writer can choose to tone down the recommendation if s/he doesn’t agree. But if s/he does, you’ve utilized an opportunity fully and bolstered your candidacy tremendously.

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The New York Times Ethicist

I field questions from clients about how to identify themselves racially and ethnically on their applications, and as diversity becomes a more prominent priority for many academic institutions, this issue will come up more often. The New York Times Ethicist answers an interesting moral dilemma posed by a medical school applicant in a recent column. Enjoy. 

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Is It Kosher?

My advisees often have questions about the ethics of letters of recommendation (LOR).

First, some applicants tell me they feel guilty because – although they waived their right to see their LORs – their writers gave them their letters to read. If your letter writer crafts your LOR understanding that s/he has no obligation to let you read it yet chooses to offer you a copy, you have done nothing unethical. That decision is the letter writer’s.

Furthermore, I’ve had applicants tell me they feel uncomfortable because faculty have told them to write their own recommendation letters after which the letter “writers” will edit and sign. Again, totally kosher. This topic was recently addressed here by the ethicist in the New York Times.

Remember to start early in asking faculty to write your recommendations. LORs almost always take longer than you think.

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About Dr. Michelle Finkel

Dr. Michelle Finkel

Dr. Finkel is a graduate of Stanford University and Harvard Medical School. On completing her residency at Harvard, she was asked to
stay on as faculty at Harvard Medical School and spent five years teaching at the world-renowned Massachusetts General Hospital.
She was appointed to the Assistant Residency Director position for the Harvard Affiliated
Emergency Medicine Residency where she reviewed countless applications, personal statements and resumes. Read more

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