I was with my children at a four year-old’s birthday party a few years ago when I met the grandfather of the birthday-boy. As it turned out, before retiring, the man had been on the admissions committee of a prestigious medical school for decades.

So, I asked him, “Looking back at all of those years of experience, what is the one thing you learned from interviewing medical students?”

The man chuckled and said, “They have no idea what they’re getting themselves into.”

In life, we never have any idea what we’re getting ourselves into, but I think of this man every time I practice the question “What will you like least about being a doctor” or “…least about being a [insert your medical specialty here]” with my medical school and residency mentees, respectively. Saying you’ll love everything about being a physician or psychiatrist or pediatrician or internist sounds disingenuous and naive. You need to show that you have some idea what you’re getting yourself into.

Having said that, I would avoid tacky topics like money. And talking about how horrible night shifts are is not going to win you many points. But a sophisticated applicant can infer what the challenges will be in medicine or in her specialty and can express them with aplomb.

…As with everything, practice your answer in advance.

Last week I went to hear the author Nicole Krauss speak about her recently-released novel Forest Dark. I am a big fan of Krauss’ writing. The day I heard the author speak, she had published an opinion piece in the NYT Sunday Magazine called “Do Women Get to Write with Authority?” In the article, Krauss speaks about the lack of authority that women writers have compared to men, and specifically, how female artists’ work is often characterized as “lovely,” a word she describes as lacking in “independent power.”

I must admit that I sometimes use the word “lovely” (both for women and men) when I like someone. But Krauss made me think about the word in the context of achievement – not personality – and her point is well-taken.

What does this have to do with medical school and residency admissions? When you interview, you want the faculty member to leave the table saying you were “accomplished,” not “lovely.” Many applicants miss this point: You don’t want to simply be liked; you want to be seen as worthy. It’s important that you focus on that important goal as you practice for interviews.

As an aside, I have not gotten a hold of Forest Dark yet, but I would strongly recommend Krauss’ Great House and History of Love.